So I'm going on a very "datey-date" on Saturday night. It occurs to me that I can't remember the last time I went on a "datey-date." It has definitely been a couple of years.
Now don't get me wrong--I've been on plenty of dates. But they've tended to be lower-key dates. "I'll meet you there" dates (or even more common--given how many people I've dated who didn't have a car--"I guess I'll pick you up" dates). "Play it by ear" dates. Or sometimes, "I have a general idea of the plan" dates. And as a general rule, the content of the dates I've been on has been pretty low key and non-datey also. We'd go hiking, or have a picnic, or go for a motorcycle ride, or just kind of wonder around and see what happened. Hanging out as dating.
And really, non-datey's been good with me. The formality and planned-ness of datey-dates makes me nervous. I feel like staring at each other from across the table of a fancy restaurant isn't a very natural or organic way to really get to know someone. And it's certainly not representative of how I really like to spend my time.
And yet, this datey-date's got me intrigued. There is something to be said for a guy with a very clear plan. Who's going to pick me up in a car. And take me out on a Saturday night (not a Thursday night or Sunday afternoon). I don't even know what to make of it. But given my penchant for new experiences (particularly if they're awkward), I'm looking forward to it.
Here's to hoping we don't decide we hate each other mid-way through the appetizer, because it would be a really long night after that!
